Is it better to struggle with codependency or addiction? The truth is that both have the same patterns of behavior. Codependents are addicted to people, while addicts struggle with substance abuse or another behavior that changes brain chemistry. Think about it: The same behaviors exist whether you identify as a codependent or an addict. Which do you fall under?
Both codependency and addiction produce a cycle of behavior that keeps each person sick. For example, a codependent mom may give her son money to buy drugs rather than seeing him sick from withdrawal or dealing with his volatile mood. She enables his addiction while thinking that she is controlling it by limiting his money. She feels safe that he uses at home rather than in some abandoned house. Her son manipulates her, using her love for him against her, and she enables him out of fear of losing him.
In our example, we see the mom and son demonstrate manipulation, control, lying and hiding. This is the typical pattern of those in a family of addiction. The family secret, addiction and codependency, is often kept hidden until one party is ready to make a change.
Are you tired of the addiction dance? Then you are probably ready for a healthy change. First, you need to gain strength to confront and challenge your own unhealthy patterns of behavior.
Get help together. At Lakeview Health we understand that addicts and their entire families need help.
To give the addict a fighting chance, all areas of his or her life must also be addressed. The family secret needs to be exposed to bring honesty and light to the situation. Addiction is an uncomfortable place and when someone sheds light on it, either the addict or codependent is forced to change. One person’s change in the dynamic will have a positive impact on others making the same healthy decision.
Call to Action Omar: If you or a loved one is struggling with addiction call us at 866.704.7692 about entering addiction treatment today. Lakeview Health admission coordinators are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to speak with you.
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